Is he looking for a one night stand, a good friend or a life-long commitment? They look for stability when thinking about dating again.Knowing you were the one hurt gives them some comfort in knowing you were content in a relationship and not always wanting more than the other person had to offer and that your stable and really wanted a prior relationship to be a life-long success. Most people dread the thought that they will be having to compete with an ex. Everyone usually wants to know they are not about to get involved with someone with a bad past like a drug addiction, alcohol-abuse or some type of ailment that prevents them from working and doing day to day activities.If you do, this is a dangerous situation—you give up control of your personal power and unfairly place a lot of responsibility on someone else to be the keeper of your happiness.The moment your partner doesn’t live up to an expectation, or doesn’t give you enough time and affection, your self-worth suffers.Most women especially, want romance first then maybe attachment.
A few years ago I had a friend tell me he couldn’t think of one person in his church he respected enough to approach for advice. If the person you’re with feels they have nothing to learn from or offer the church, this reveals not only problems with their theology, but also a lack of love for what Christ himself values. They won’t keep them perfectly—none of us does—but are they continually laboring to become more like Christ?After a painful divorce, it’s very tension- filled trying to find someone who will not repeat those same mistakes as your once better-half did, or in your mind at least.After all, we only have one life to live and at the age of 59, it’s usually hard to even find someone who doesn’t have health problems, excess baggage of some sort or so set in their ways you can not deal with emotionally trying to re-build a broken life with, completely from scratch again.The New Year is upon us, and once again, we swear to ourselves that we'll stop eating sugar and spend more time with the family.Unfortunately, our deeply engrained habits supersede our best intentions, and within weeks, we usually fall back into the same old ways.